Behavior v. Belief
You can't change your BEHAVIORS until you change your BELIEFS about
WHO...
YOU.....
ARE....
Ya know I would spend MORE TIME & ENERGY focusing on reasons I COULDN'T accomplish my goals and that mindset got me NOWHERE.
If I wanted to achieve financial freedom, overcome my binge eating & strengthen my marriage then I had to BELIEVE it was possible. ... and I had to take ACTION.
So ACTION I took....
With my finances I started putting MORE effort into my Online Business & stopped making excuses (even when I was teaching 15-20 classes, personal training and running my own studio.) If others can do it, why can't I?!?!
For my binge-emotional eating I followed a meal plan and journaled WHY I was basing my worth on a number on the scale.
With my marriage I started to appreciate Eddie MORE & I asked for help when I needed it. He's my rock and I'm so grateful for him...and always will be.
When you realize you CAN decide to NOT listen to your self limiting beliefs then you make room for BETTER Beliefs.....Just know, you can't have both.
Sure somedays that UGLY side will try to get you down but you say..."STOP, THIS IS THE NEW ME & I LOVE WHO I AM BECOMING BECAUSE IF I CAN SHOW THAT LOVING MYSELF MATTERS, THEN OTHERS WILL TOO."
If you need help in a few of those areas just know I'm only a message away, and the plan that I have followed has worked for me & thousands of others. You don't need to do this alone. I definitely had help too ya know.
Sweaty Confidence
Confidence = wearing pants that totally show your crotch sweat....and you don't care
I remember as a Zumba instructor back in 2008 & I SO wanted to wear the bright orange cargos but I would sweat right through them and so I NEVER wore them. Do you guys remember those!?!?!
Anyhow, it feels good to be at this point. It didn't happen overnight because this is a journey and always will be.
When you feel embarrassed about something ask yourself..."am I ONLY embarrassed because what others would think?" Because that's not freedom. That's building a box of self limiting beliefs around you and because of your own criticism it will CONTINUE to make you feel smaller and less confident.
Don't let that happen. You DO have control over more than you think. The right people will support you. ALWAYS. So post that progress pic. Take that leap. Be kind to yourself. ALWAYS. More amazing things happen when you are more open to it.
Living Your Dreams
Dreaming of living......
or .....
Living your dreams....
REAL change happens when you are desperate to NOT repeat the last few years and you are also inspired to have a more purpose filled and happier life.
My DESPERATION came from working for gyms where I was under appreciated and under paid.
My INSPIRATION came from other Online Coaches who were working for themselves, successful, providing for thier families, traveling and so freaking happy.
Tbh, I was SO ENVIOUS and JEALOUS of the life they created and one day I thought..."if I change nothing, then NOTHING changes."
So instead of comparing myself and letting my doubting, inner mean girl talk too loud I listened to the dreamer and full of hope whisper to me......"you can do this too...if you never try you will never know."
So I signed up and learned as I went and I'm STILL learning. I'm STILL growing. I'm STILL here 6+ years later. And I FREAKING love this & I always will.
Sure it's, work...but it’s so rewarding & so fulfilling. My purpose and passion have come together in the best career choice I have ever made. I help people get healthier and I work one on one with people just like me looking for a way to work online and improve not only thier own health but everyone else's too.
But this isn't about me, I wanna talk with YOU If you have been watching and waiting for a sign HERE.IT.IS. If you wanna work online together and help inspire real long lasting change for yourself & others I'm only a message away babe. 2020 CAN be the year things changed....for the better.
Let's Make Mistakes!
"The person who makes no mistakes, usually doesn't make anything."
So fail often.
Take the chance.
Make that video, podcast, art, whatevs!
Build that side hustle already.
Read that book.
Post about your dreams.
Ask for the raise.
Take the leap at learning something new.
Say yes to the RIGHT thing.
Say no to the WRONG thing.
And most of all learning from your mistakes is part of growth. So what are you waiting for?! For approval from people who DON'T have your back?!
You know how ridiculous that sounds?! Because it is! This is YOUR life, remember...FREAKIN OWN IT. Approval of YOURSELF is YOUR job, not theirs.
Sometimes I hit ya with tough love because life isn't 's & 's most days. But once you make those mistakes you GROW into who you were always meant to be! SOOO Let's do thissssssss
What If You Succeed?
The answer you NEED is right in front of you.
You can research ALL YOU WANT but deep down you aren't looking for the PERFECT answer. You KNOW the answer. Ya just gotta DO IT. ya gotta take the leap even if you are scared.
The DO-ERS are NO different from anyone else, except they know the FASTER they move forward the FASTER they reach that goal.
It's not gonna be pretty or perfect or even that appealing at times, but ya just gotta say yes to whatever it is you have been thinking about. And instead of thinking about "what if I fail?" .... Pivot your thoughts to "what if I succeed?!"
I questioned Coaching for nearly 2 years before I become an Online Coach. And tbh my first 3 years was so difficult because I had to take the leap everyday. I had to show up and BELIEVE I am building something. I had to believe that people needed my help & I had to believe in MYSELF enough to not throw in the towel when times were slow.
The first half of my online business was full of mistakes but I learned new things. I moved passed the panic attacks of leading a team call...and a few days ago I was a guest on a podcast talking for nearly 2 hours easy peasy. Who am I!?!?!
I am ONLY the SARAH today because the SARAH 6 1/2 years ago had a little dream that she would someday become who I am today. But without taking that leap I wouldn't be here. I'd probably still be making 60-80k less than I make now and I wouldn't be working from home with Eddie. I'd still be teaching 15+ classes a week, overtraining and binge eating. Coaching saved my life y'all.
And YES. I'm here to help a few more people this month who wants to grow an online business WITH ME. Next month my one on one calls are being scheduled and I want someone who is ready for change, who is driven and wants MORE out of their life.
Side effects might include you and your family and friends becoming healthier, wealthier & happier. So ya wanna have a convo about this? Because if you read THIS MUCH it probably means you are READY.
*Must be 18+
*Must be located in the US, UK, FRANCE or CANADA
*NO GAURENTEE of making bank. Ya gotta put un the work and everyone’s income in this is based on the amount of lives you change. Pretty rad right?!! Not a lotta jobs give ya a raise, or paid for beach trips, or gifts like luggage, apple watches, etc when ya help MORE people. I mean seriously how is this real life?!?!!?!
9/42
Workout 9/42
YUP, Still doing the thing. Ya know there's something to be said about showing up.
You might not feel empowered and strong on day 1 or even day 10, but doing this now consistently for 42 months with hundreds of different workouts I can tell you that I feel so much more capable of making sure I'm taking care of ME.
Yup, I still teach 2 fitness classes a week but for my own workouts I get to turn off my brain and follow. And following is truly filling my cup.
I also don't break promises to myself like I used to and for me that’s one of the greatest wins there is. I'm finally listening rather than rushing and it feels so good.
I also did day 2 meditation today. And I'm SO loving feeling more present.
If you ever want info on what I follow then I'm here to help babe.
I Had to Stop
Maybe stopping something bad, means enough room for starting something good.
When it comes to health, relationships and business there were many STOPS of negative behaviors I had to overcome and many things that I had to lose before I could gain what I was so wanting for my life.
I had to STOP the people pleasing in order to gain success in my own business.
I had to STOP the punishing behavior of overtraining whenever I binge-emotionally ate and instead started journaling my feelings and my food habits. I also followed a program that allowed me to become stronger inside and out.
I had to STOP the negative self talk in order to uplift myself enough to gain the confidence to say YES to learning and growing and stepping outside my comfort zone.
I need to tell ya, this journey did NOT happen overnight. It's been years in the making and the reasons for change and the consistency of continuing to show up is 100% mindset. It takes just 5 seconds to really STOP and be in the moment NOW and ask yourself...
"Am what I'm doing (or about to do) bring me closer or further away from the life I want to have?
"Do I really want that dessert because I'm emotionally reaching for it, or do I just want one serving and that will suffice?"
"Should I say no to spending time with this person or do I usually feel drained after we hang? Maybe I should limit that friend time."
"Do I really need to watch this neflix show from the couch or could I organize my closet while I watch this?"
"Should I play some music on my way to work or should I play that audible app on my phone that focuses more on improving my mindset?"
Always remember growth is self awareness and self awareness is growth. Stop rushing and being in REACT mode. After all, it's your life and its filled with about 50,0000 thoughts. Decide to make some of those thoughts intentional and you will realize you DO have more control in your own life than you thought you had.
Reflexed
Today I did a reflexology session. And I cried. Hard.
I'm still having visions of Rogers bike accident in my head and last night I woke up from another dream with a similar scenario. I don't think of myself as an empath but from peoples experiences with me they say that I am.
For as long as I can remember I associated crying and LOOKING weak as actually BEING weak. So I ran from it. I felt shame around it. I even tried putting on a front to close people off. I did this often because if I got too close I would get hurt.
... Mix that with being the people pleaser that I was & I can see how this vicious cycle played more into my anxiety than I realized.
I'm learning to let people in. I'm learning to be ok with being vulnerable and I'm learning to let things go.
When the session ended she asked if she could pray for me and I thanked her and said of course. She told me that later today to stand outside and feel the ground on my feet. So I did. I also did 10 minutes meditation from my Virtual Health club app and held Batman. It was the hardest 10 minutes because the whole time I'm "supposed" to focus on breathing but instead the first few minutes I had such a heaviness that I felt I couldn't breath deep enough. I take it I have some work to do. And that’s ok.
It's not an easy path, but when you break down the walls you built thinking it was for protection you start to let more love and support in. So to my fellow "toughies" out there
It's ok to be vulnerable.
Its ok to love hard and feel emotions.
It's ok to focus on self care.
You are love and capable of loving & accepting love.
Are there things in your life that have hardened you? Are you ready to let go and move forward? If you ever need to chat I'm here. Because you aren't alone in this. And you never will be.
Three Little Pigs
3 pigs taught me this one......
I always wanted to FEEL confident....because "looking" confident and "feeling" confident are 2 different things.
Ya see back before I was a Coach I really had it in my mind that confidence came from EXTERNAL and PHYSICAL changes and sometimes sure, becoming stronger physically MIGHT make you feel more confident in your strength but TRUE strength & confidence comes from within. ALWAYS.
I often think of the fairy tale where 3 houses are built, by yes...3 little pigs (you know how it goes).....One with straw, one with wood and the 3rd house brick. The first 2 houses are blown down while the 3rd remains. To me that house is us and standing strong without falling is our confidence.
I can tell you the EXACT moments my house came falling down. My parents divorce, toxic relationships, failed businesses, obsessing over the scale, binge eating & losing the "friends" that really never had my best interest.
But I'm not that same person. I love who I was because without those struggles and pushing past them wouldn't have lead me to where I am today and to the healthy relationships I DO have now.
Too often people have tried to tear me down and I don't like to give attention to it often because I don't want them to think they "got to me." Because in reality.... They didn’t. And they NEVER will.