Who I Was
Who I was in the past does NOT define who I am todayβββI forgive and love that girl, because she was just hurt and lost looking for acceptance from everyone else....when she MOST NEEDED IT FROM HERSELF.
I used to think girls that showed "self love" were just overly obsessed with their ego π Yea, I'm admit it, because I was SOOOOooOOO JUDGEY.
I would easily fall into the comparison trap and get uber envious. And guys, it's a struggle to get out of that cycle but hear me out....showing yourself love and gratitude is the best way to stop the hate.
Because really when you are spending any amount of time on negative thoughts about others you are ACTUALLY disliking YOURSELF more. You are comparing. You are Wishing, instead of doing & you are NOT attracting what YOU want for your OWN life. You are doing the opposite.
Instead of scrolling the socials and choosing to ignore and judge girls who are choosing to show love to themselves and others let's try something different and show love to them AND YOURSELF.
Who knows you might just become besties with these girls. I know it's what helped me to grow and and realize I needed to accept and love my self because If I didn't love and respect who I am, then I would have continued the people pleasing. I would have continued looking for acceptance and recognition from others and I would have NEVER found a tribe of such compassionate and loving people.
Time to stop hiding. It's time to start loving who you were, who you are now and who you are becoming. RIGHT NOW. πππ
What Helps You?
Some days are just sucky. I get it. Wanna know what helps when you are feeling stressed about things outta your control?
πdrinking 100 oz of water today
π doing a workout
π Enjoying A bath
π moisturizing with fresh aloe & oils ππΌ
π Making a gratitude list
π lighting some candles
π eating some fruit
πeating some veggies
π Turning OFF the news
π Unplugging from social media
π Crafting or doing a DIY project
πlistening to music
π saying NO to something or someone so you can make time for yourself.
πSaying YES to something on this list.
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Just curious, what would you add to this FEEL GOOD list?!?! And, or did you one of these things today?!?!!?
The WIN
As I enter my last week of the program I sometimes think, could I have pushed myself more. Had better nutrition? Got better seep? AND SO ON.... Because coming from a girl who is motivated by goals...I realize that if a goal is NOT met I would really get down on myself. Ya feel me!?!? But dude, that's stealing joy and EVERYDAY we need to celebrate!!! So if you are also working towards something that excites you then I want you to remember that your....."SOMEDAY IS TODAY." And here's what I mean by that.....
The WIN doesn't happen when you FINISH a race. The WIN happens EVERYDAY you decide you are worthy to fuel your body right and move your body.
The WIN doesn't happen when you make a certain amount of money. The WIN happens when you do those vital behaviors everyday.
The WIN doesn't happen when you meet the person of your dreams. The WIN happens when you make time for that person and check in on them daily and treat them like it's still day 1.
The WIN doesn't happen when you reach a goal. The WIN is celebrated EVERY DAY in the sweat the tears, the fails forward and the time you take everyday to show up for YOU.
So babe, SHOW UP. You are SO A WINNER when you do that. Stop the comparison game. Let TODAY be a WIN. Because it is. You are alive. You have a purpose. You are loved. You are worthy of love. π So show yourself some compassion and love by celebrating EVERY WIN today. π
Decide A New Path
β‘οΈDecide a new path. Fail FORWARD. Break the rules that you feel are keeping you safe because maybe those rules are actually keeping you the same.
For change to happen you only need to convince one person that it's a good idea. γYOUγ
I see SO MANY people miss out on AMAZING opportunities and stay stuck day after day. & it's not because they are afraid to fail...it's because they are afraid to fail IN FRONT OF OTHERS.
Guys, if you think those judgey people are in your corner, they AREN'T. Ya know who is!??! ....most likely the people OUTSIDE your circle. It's the people that DO SUPPORT YOU. It's those that say .."GO FOR IT, I BELIEVE IN YOU!!" And they ALSO push themselves not just in support of you but because they ALSO understand the hope for a BETTER future.
If you have been TOO AFRAID to leave the safety (even if it is toxic) of your circle you will NEVER understand what it means to grow...unless of course your circle is pushing you to grow, then by all means ....KEEP GOING!!!!!
And if you know that feeling of "stuck" then you MUST take action!!! Yes. It will be hard in the beginning to do something new and to take on any new challenge means you might fail, but those that fail OVER AND OVER are far more successful (and happier imo) than those who DECIDE to stay stuck.
AGAIN ...β‘οΈDecide a new path. Fail FORWARD. Break the rules that you feel are keeping you safe because maybe those rules are actually keeping you the same.
It's time to grow babe. Now get outta your own way and FIGHT for the life you want. βββ
I Like Carbs
I like carbs .....and I cannot lie πππΌ Just curious has it been easier to eat healthier at home, or harder? I know for me the only struggle was the extra alcohol I was reaching for, but glad to say that I've cut it out for May and I'm definitely feeling better....so it's worth it. Don't get me wrong, next month I will add it back in but just one night per week ππΌ
The pics here are First meal and second meal (yes, I'm an Intermittent faster & usually eat 2 larger meals everyday) ...and not shown is my kombucha I'm drinking now and a chocolate protein bar I'm gonna grab for dessert. ππΌ
Congrats Grad!
Congrats to my crazy smart, beautiful and kind niece Kayla!!!!! She moves out of her dorm today. She is a college grad(in 3 years, too!) I'm so freakin proud of her πππ Btw, we did NOT plan on matching, but we do tend to twin often and my sister often calls me Kayla....which I'm totally ππΌ with. Love you sweet Kayla. You might be younger than me but you have taught me so much about love and kindness, I hope to be more like you when I grow up πππ love youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!!
Oops
Welp, I tried cooking again.....dude. 50% of the time this happens. Anyone else suck at this too?!π and props to my friend Hillary for crushing the rest of the Blue Apron Recipe. I swear, I WAS NOT trying to get out of it!!!πππ (oh and yes thats a paper towel with a hair tie. Cuzz I'm fancy. )
House Flipper
Welp, I've officially found the way to unplug from work, people & social media..."House Flipper"π³π³π³
Eddie got this game and it looked boring bc you just clean up houses basically....but then you decorate them (however you want) πππ ....then you SELL them...then you make $$$$$$ππΌππΌππΌ (Not real money, but still I get excited π€£π³π€·π½ββοΈπ)
And I'm holding my hand up for 2 reasons.. the NUMBER 5 is how late I stayed up last night playing this addicting game, and also I'm on week #5 of my program. TUUUHHHDAAAAYYYYYY WAS ROUGH, to push play.... And yes, this is my own fault....but I realized something....
Are YOU giving yourself TIME to ENJOY something!!?!?!! I know me, I have been working SO HARD lately and I told Eddie how much I needed this game in my life and told him sorry but I'm playing this 12 hours straight (literally). π€£ Anyway, my cup is over floweth (is that even a word?).....& now and I'm ready to CRUSH this week!!!! All that to say, dude, Do something FOR YOU. And if it's gaming too, then go have fun. Give yourself permission. The work will always be there, but wouldn't you rather feel RECHARGED to go do it?! ππ½ββοΈππΌππΌππΌππΌππΌ I know I am!!! βββ
Dream Bigger
I was in the hospital when I decided I was going to find a way to work for myself.
I was just 2 years into working for a local gym and was already teaching quite a few classes so feeling joint & muscle pain I was used too, but this was different. So after a few hours I asked Eddie to take me to the hospital because when I couldn't handle the pain in my lower belly.
...Come to find out, I am prone to cysts on my ovaries. As I sat there waiting, & on pain meds, I realized I wasn't able to teach my strength & Zumba classes that evening. I called the gym & the response I got made me realize that my ONLY value was what I did FOR THEM.
I was told it was my responsibility I find my own subs & it's my fault I didn't have the list of contacts with me at the hospital. This person made me feel like a bad person for not being ABLE TO show up, but then I thought I would NEVER treat someone like this! I would sympathize with them then HELP them find a solution!!!!
Time and time again after that I met people who only saw my value in what I did FOR THEM. Yes. It REALLY sucks when you try your best & still get no respect from your "mentors"... Yes, being a people pleaser is a Choice....but back then I didn't know that.
So from 2009-2014 I was on a MISSION to find what THAT is. After many failed attempts, I finally partnered with a company that aligns with my beliefs in what "HEALTHY" truly is. Yes, I became an Online Health & Wealth Coach where I help people get healthier & also mentor them to create an income doing the same. This Coaching family is EVERYTHING to me too. They are EXACTLY what I wished I would someday be a part of.
I love our team so much π The support & love is something I don't take for granted. ππππ
Wherever you are at in your journey I just want to encourage you & say β‘οΈDO.NOT.GIVE.UP. Keep fighting for the life you want. Dissociate yourselves from the toxic people. Say NO more often to things that are "easy & comfortable " so you then have the energy to say YES to the opportunities & people that push you, who APPRECIATE YOU, & also help you to grow. Everyday. Amazing things happen when YOU make that choice. If you want to talk about Coaching I have an info session next weekend. Drop me a message (or message your Coach) and we will add ya to our free group. You never know if this could be the answer you are looking for just like it was for me and so many others. #dreambigger #teamsweatcoaches
Affected by Quarantine?
Just curious do you feel stronger and healthier since quarantine, or has it bee a struggle?? TBH, my weekend "drinks" have increased to almost daily. π³πππ So for me, and the remainder of this program I'm sticking to Water, superfoods, and coffee for my drinks. Help me stick to it. Kkkkayyyyyy!?!?! So.... What about you? Any May goals you would like to share?