Drop A Stress Size

If it's not your own thoughts or actions, then stop stressing.

Too often I STRRRUUUGGGGGLLLED with this until I finally GOT IT. We are given free will y'all and while sure some of us WISH we had control over people and what they did or didn't do...we have to realize we DON'T HAVE THAT CONTROL...and we actually have NEVER had that control, nor will we EVER....and that’s A GOOD thing!!!!

I had to put my Control FREAKNESS to the side and realize that "want" to control outcomes was causing Waaaaayyyyy more stress than I needed. Instead, I looked at what I COULD do and what actions I should take. There's no room for blaming others when you are responsible for your OWN actions. When I took that ownership I had a HUGE weight lifted from my shoulders. I now see what I CAN control and I put that energy into what I was meant to do and guys, stressing is not worth the time. Drop the stress and you will lose the mess. 👌🏼

Take Care of Yourself

Being weak is not a bad sign. It's a sign and knowing what your weakness is means you CAN get stronger. An area I needed to work on was my mindset & self care. I FINALLY took action recently. 

Being the "YES, PEOPLE PLEASER" in me I found it hard at first because helping people filled my cup...right?!?!?! Well, I thought so until I really looked deep. 

I had to be super honest and realize I was doing for others for approval, acceptance and making others happy thinking that would be mirrored back to me. 

I didn't want to "rock the boat" as they say, so I was the nice one...to EVERYONE. But on the inside I was full of turmoil, resentment, tired ALL THE TIME & I felt I was pouring into people that no matter what I did, I couldn't help or encourage them enough.

I never felt fulfilled or saw the work come to fruition so I got angry, cried for no reason at times and felt bitter. NOT a good place to be. Even writing this I feel like I'm whining. Sorry if it comes across that way. 

I digress, I have a point, I promise, because I FINALLY feel I'm coming out on the other side of this so I thought I would share what's helped me THE most and that is SELF CARE.

I know that word is thrown around A LOT lately but it's a necessity if you ever felt the way I did. 

Self care can look different for everyone, but to me it's a workout, showering and going back into sweats🤣👌🏼 drinking coffee & listening/note taking to my personal development audio book before I start in on messages and checking in with my clients and team.

This is a MUST for me to fill my cup before I fill others...you can't pour from an empty cup ya'll!!!!

It took me longer than I'd like to admit before I ACTUALLY started doing this but now that it's a habit I'm at my happiest. Just curious what do you do for YOU that fills your cup!? How do you self care? Or do you want to? You can write down what you would LIKE to do. Making a plan is ALWAYS a great first step to a happier you. 😘

Wednesday Walk

On Wednesdays we walk.... and that’s because the Auntie Anne’s pretzel truck comes downtown...so the 2 mile walk is soooo worth it 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 Also I love that This doggo is living his best life and it's not because he has it ALL, it's because he's happy with ALL that he has. 

It's a good reminder to know that happiness isn't found in what you WANT and thinking WHEN you get it THEN you will be happy....nah, man, it's found in the gratitude of what you already have here in this moment. 

Be present. Be grateful. And smile with your tongue hanging out and face towards the sun because we never get to have this day again and that's why it's so freaking amazing 🙏 
#attitudeofgratitude

Chipotle Bowl Thoughts

Mmmmm, chipotle bowl😍.....but healthier because it's ACTUALLY Portioned 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 Growing up I was taught EAT ALL YOUR FOOD...as an adult I kept that motto...and it got me into eating WAYYYYY PAST fullness & I know I'm not the only one, so here's a few small changes that helped me create new habits....hope it helps!!!

✅Replace all your soda and juices for WATER!!!!! YES. Drink water, even if ya don't like it. 1/2 your body weight in ounces at least. Add fresh food like lemon, strawberries, mint or cucumber to make it tastier. Remember your tastes change when YOU change. 

✅Fill your plate with veggies. That makes less room for the processed carbs that you don't need as much of. 👌🏼

✅throw out the cereal...you're not 5 anymore. (That goes for all BOXED foods). Read the labels of these... if you don't understand an ingredient just remember, neither does your body. Stop the confusion & madness!!!!!🤣

✅And most of all...MEASURE YOUR PORTIONS!!!!
Once I started using the portion control system I learned WHAT & HOW MUCH to eat & also WHY I was an emotional eater. I know I became a Coach to further help others but I was schooled y'all, in the BESTEST of ways 👌🏼 The meal plans, recipes, system for success was everything I needed....Plus studying this Nutrition Cert has really made me realize that 90% of EVERYONE needs help in this area. Just fyi, we aren't alone in this struggle people!!!!

Btw, have you ever been interested in expanding your knowledge in nutrition? I'm looking for a few more people who might want to participate and/or lead a Virtual Fit Club with me in July. You could learn(& earn) right along with us, while also helping others. And yes, this is a paid gig!! If you are thinking it might be a good fit for you please fill out my FIT-INFLUENCER Application (for leading) or Virtual Fit Club Application (if participating).

Never Enough

I think we ALL have areas that need some growing but I think my weakest area has always been FEELINGS OF NEVER BEING ENOUGH.....

Let me explain, I was envious & super jealous of other peoples success. I know... Total B move right!?!? Now I see that when I was envious and jealous I was NOT looking internal for happiness. It was all external. I struggled with this for years....So, Why was it I wasn't happy and what could I do to not feel so worthless? I decided to deep dive into personal growth. And the biggest change happened when I realized that all these feelings of negative can be overwritten by ACTIONS of gratitude & CHOOSING to do something POSITIVE instead of feed into the hate, gossip & envy. Happiness, love & gratitude is WITHIN me & you. If we want to see positive, it's there. If we want to see negative, we see negative. We have to start THINKING THANKFUL but also SHOWING it. "Less talking, more DOING" as they say. 

So what was I seeing when I saw others success? I was seeing what I didn't have. So instead of compare, I needed to be grateful for what I ALREADY had & then use their story as INSPIRATION to become better. 

If you ever find your struggle is the same as mine just know that not everything is as it seems. We ALL have weak & strong areas of our life. The best way to become happier is to BE happier. And yes it's a choice. It ALWAYS is a choice. When you are positive happy & giving through actions then your feelings of comparison & worthlessness start to fade. There's not enough room for negative when you decide to become a better person. 

So write that "I'm sorry" message to someone. Call up someone you love & TELL THEM you love them. Do something good for those around you. Ya know the 5 love languages? 💜Quality time💜Touch💜Acts of service💜words of encouragement & 💜gifts? What can YOU do to show others gratefulness with one of those languages? 

Remember, when you fill another persons cup you are at the same time filling yours because people are meant to help people. When you give someone light from your candle it does not dim yours. Everyone can grow but it starts with the desicion to do better & to act on it everyday. 💕

Butterflies, Rainbows, & Unicorn Ice Cream Poop (Not)

"You are 2% likely to succeed in an online business." That's NOT something they tell you when you join. And so WHY THE HECK would I talk about this!?!?! Because I'm 100% honest about what an ONLINE BUSINESS IS. And no, It's NOT butterflies , rainbows & unicorn ice cream poop. It's hard work. & the reason WHY it's hard is because it starts with a belief that this WILL work & that comes down to a belief in YOURSELF. There's SO MANY products & companies that are freaking phenomenal & I want to tell ya something, even though statistics tell you one thing I'd like to let you in on a SECRET to success.

Let me take ya back 5 years ago when I started my Online Fit Biz. We had conference calls back IN THA DAY and for some reason I worked myself up SOOOO much during a call I was speaking on and I had a BAD Panic attack. My upline had to get on the call and takeover while I stopped choking and started to breathe again. 🙈😭🙈
I could have said., "I'm not cut out for this...I QUIT." but I didn't. Here's why..

#1 If I quit now I let down not only myself but also the people that are counting on me.
#2 If I quit now I prove the nay-sayers/doubters right(I had an ego back then, now I don't give a poop👌🏼)
#3 If I quit now, I won't achieve my HUGE goals. And if others can achieve these goals, why Can't I!?! We offer the same stuff!!!! 💁🏽‍♀️
#4 I'm sick of being a Follower and envying the success of others. If I want to be a leader, I have to be a leader of my own life FIRST. I want that confidence and trust & belief in myself so that I can also help others have that & I won't get that by quitting!!!!!

If you are a fellow entrepreneur or are thinking about joining, just know MINDSET is EVERYTHING and failures are NOT roadblocks, they are stepping stones to success. So don't give up. Keep learning. Keep growing. Keep trying & most of all KEEP SHOWING UP. We are here to prove prove to ourselves and others that there is a better way. Bc there is!!!! As many failures as I've had I've also gained countless friendships, transformation stories, confidence, a positive mindset & the freedom to work from home with Eddie. I would have never had this without Coaching. 🙏

Freedom

𝐹𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑑𝑜𝑚, 𝑠𝑢𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑛 𝑎 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛, 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑐𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑠𝑒𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑐ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑡ℎ𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑎𝑛 𝑎𝑚𝑎𝑧𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑐ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑢𝑝 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒.

𝑌𝑒𝑠, 𝑏𝑒 𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑙𝑦 𝑏𝑒 𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑜𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑜𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠. 𝑊ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑧𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝐷𝑂 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑧𝑒, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑦 𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝐹𝑅𝐸𝐸𝐷𝑂𝑀. 💕

Wanna Make a Bet?

I don't normally like to do a "J O I N M E" type post, buuuuuut SO MANY PEOPLE need a slap in the butt right now. ;) I get it, you are BUSY. No time for yourself, not motivated enough.... Guys, do ya think motivation just comes to "lucky people?!?" UMMM NOPE. It comes to people that want to FEEL AMAZING. They are the people that WANT confidence and they WANT to stop the cycle of trying and quitting. Seriously, ask yourself....IF NOT NOW, THEN WHEN!?!?!?!??! 

I'm here to help, but ONLY those that REALLY want a change. I only have 4 SPOTS LEFT!!!!! Yep, that's right, either you are IN or you AREN'T. So lemme get you the info NOW before registration closes on SUNDAY!!!!!

So what is it!?!?!

"I BET ON MYSELF" CHALLENGE

THE RULES.....
*Pay $10 to get into the group...(private app, accessed on your phone. No social media required) 
*Log 18 workouts(6 per week) for 3 weeks (streamed from anywhere, anytime, you just need interwebs access) 
*Replace one meal a day with the same superfoods smoothie I use.

AND THAT'S IT!!!! 

Listen, you get your MONEY BACK when you stay committed (Plus any leftover money if people fall off!!!!) 

I followed this program pretty closely these last few weeks and I feel freaking amazing. Yes, it's the SAME program I'm doing WITH you, and I'M YOUR F R E E COACH!!!! You just need the same system for success my clients and I are also using!!! You in!!?!?!!??! Fill out my Virtual Fit Club Application if you want me to reserve your spot!!!!

Passion

When you face fears and try something new, you learn more about what your passion is. And passion is never a person place or thing. It's a FEELING that comes up and gives you energy rather than depletes it. So pay attention to the people and work around you. Are you feeling energetic, excitement & hope or are you feeling tired, bored and anxious!? And if you don't know, then what is your BODY telling you!?!! Looking back there are a few examples in my life that I SHOULD HAVE listened to.......

I had toxic relationships that depleted me, and I actually broke into a rash on both my arms. The only thing that soothed it was turning the faucet all the way to scolding hot and putting my arms under it. Yikes.... I was also a nail biter.....like bleeding cuticles nail biter. 😭 for almost 30 years!

I realize now that I was NOT passionate about my life and I tolerated how people treated me. I wasn't aware that YES I have a choice in this. And NO, I'm not playing that victim card anymore...

I connected with more positive people and I decided to learn something new. Sure it made me feel scared of the unknown but looking back if I hadn't had taken those chances to learn and grow I wouldn't be here....

🙏💕Sitting on my front porch following up with babes who are crushing their goals. I LOVE the people I'm surrounded by now and I LOVE helping them to see their value too. You have value and you can create a passionate purposeful driven life. Find what you enjoy and learn more about it. Take a risk, it might be the change you have been looking for all along.🙌

Breathe and Be

While the saying "Go hard or Go Home" can describe some, maybe for some of us we need to adopt a new saying. Maybe "Breathe & Be" should be the new motto....
So what does BREATHE AND BE mean?

#1 Slow down. You are SOOOO busy doing for others and saying YES to all the things that you forget your most important priority. YOU. Your busy-ness keeps you from going after your dreams doesn't it? 

#2 breathe and be present in the ONE THING you will do to move a little closer to your goals. Take some notes on what brings YOU joy, health, happiness,..whatever that is for you, write it down. And what is that ONE thing you can TODAY that's for JUST FOR YOU!?!?! whatever that is, Set aside time TODAY. 

#3 Speak your truth. Tell someone, tell a few people who are also dreamers and do-ers. You start to realize you aren't alone in your WANT for something better. Those that have what you want might even have trainings on exactly HOW to get to where you want to go!!!! That's how I learned!!!! 

All that to say, NO you don't have be a "balls to the wall", "go hard or go home" , or "BEAST MODE" kinda person to be successful, happy and healthy. You start where YOU are at and you love yourself ENOUGH in this EXACT moment to treat yourself right. We don't become who we want to be by hating who we are NOW. We realize we are already enough and we allow that stronger, positive more powerful person inside of us to grow. Hush out the negative and listen to the positive. Breathe and Be. 💕🙏💕