Fear Has One Job
I'd rather live my life doing things that scare me than choosing to stay safe and comfortable.
But that wasn't always the case because FEAR has ONE job. Keeps you stuck, even when you are miserable.
My #1 Fear....is hurting others. I can trace it back to relationships I've had and I STAYED stuck because of FEAR I would let people down. My body knew it wasn't right and tried to show me OVER and OVER through nail biting, panic attacks, skin rashes & anxiety.
So what changed & how was I able to say that it's time to focus on ME?!?! Well to be honest I don't have just ONE answer because being the stubborn person I am it took MANY FAILED ATTEMPTS.
But I now ask myself,..."before I say YES, is this something I WANT to do FOR ME, or is it out of guilt & trying to PLEASE OTHERS? Because you can't pour from an empty cup without mixing in guilt, resentment and shame.
I ran from these feelings for YEARS because I was too afraid to admit the real truth....
That I was basing my worth on what I did FOR OTHERS....and guys, when you do that, NO ONE IS HAPPY. Not even the person you are trying to please.
It's a hard truth to face but I encourage you today to ask yourself....
"Am I staying in a job that depletes me or inspires me to learn more and gives me the energy I NEED so that I CAN pour into others?"
"Am I staying in a relationship that depletes me or does it inspire me to love more and gives me the love I need?"
"Am I staying stuck with my(mental, emotional physical and/ or financial) health goals?"
"Do I need the guidance to learn from others or will I continue to stay where I am and envy those with success?"
Only YOU can answer those questions, but I encourage you to take a chance to sit down and write down what you WANT and NEED on your life.
When you OWN it you can start to make the right decisions toward the path that fulfills you. And that is NOT selfish, because when you choose that path everyone around you benefits and the people who DO love you will support you in these decisions...the ones that don't will distance themselves. And wouldn't you rather have a tribe talking about how awesome you are behind your back, instead of pointing out your faults? I know I do!!!!
You got this And if you need a friend to talk it out, you know where to find me